Fast Foward from 2009 until 2017

Thoughts on Graduation:

 

Here we are arriving at graduation. I am not sure what to think or how to feel. I just spent the last three years of my life in school. I finally have a job to look forward to (that’s not retail). I finally have all that I hope to achieve in my adult life (a job, a place to live, some stable income).

I had hoped to have achieved this a long time ago. That never happened (life throwing’ ya lemons) I look back and reflect on the last three years. What lessons have I learned? Who do I need to thank? Who is that I became in the last three years?  Did I just become some schlep who went back to school because I couldn’t find a job with my art school degree? I keep asking myself these questions. I have been doing that all week. These things have been playing in my mind all week. In my attempt to write honestly, (and hopefully better)- I am sharing the answers.

 

  1. Who have I become in the last three years?

I think for me, I became someone that once again had to push hard. I speak true to myself and say, “Nothing Ever Comes Easy” (which why I have this tattooed to me). I am learning to be fiercely unapologetic to others. I have had to push out so much negative in my life. When it came to negativity about my skills, my career, my looks (all of it – and god damn those looks because that self-image thing is such a bitch). I learned to push beyond what others wanted. I had to know deep down what I wanted. (I’ve read all that bad-ass books on girl bossing and such). I knew that I wanted a job. I had to prove everyone wrong and show them I was serious. I had to take extra courses in writing to show I was committed to getting better and what I set forth to do (Marketing ahem!)  (and the writing thing I am still getting down).

I became more of my true authentic self I feel like. I started to understand that (I ramble a lot) I can use both sides of my brain to create my career. I had to realize no matter what anyone says, “I am enough” (even though majority of the time my brain doesn’t say it). That’s who I am- someone who had to push beyond the words “Never going to happen”. I once heard my friend Esther tell me the one thing I’ve always liked about you “You know who you are and You are grounded in that”.

That life is can be harder than you think. Life can throw a lot of crap your way, you just must roll with it (hell half the time I was crying at life).

 

  1. What lessons have I learned?

“Failure Isn’t an Option”- Corri Mcfadden

I ended up getting this quote tattooed to me; because it spoke to me so deeply. I knew when I started school I just had to find something better. I set out to study web design. That didn’t quite work out the way I had hoped. Marketing just kind of fell in my lap. My biggest fear in life is that I would end up not being able to make it in the world (and I’m hanging in there now) I knew that Failure couldn’t be an option for me I had just had to make this degree work for me. Hopefully it will.

“You are the most vital part of your creativity” –Melissa Camilleri

“YOU” is the key emphasis here. I learned that without me there was no fun creativity in blogging, school, social media whatever I choose. That “I” had to make this happen.

“When it comes to blogging FUCK all of the hate*

A few of my good blogger friends (Corri Mcfadden , Hallie Wilson, Janet Mandell,  Jennifer Worman, Natalie CraigCourtney Quinn  and Maya Mcdonaldall pushed me to come back to blogging and told me to Fuck what everyone else thinks. These ladies are some serious bad ass babes (I thank them for the words of encouragement!) Here I am trying that out again! (and ps, the people on Get Off My Internets thanks for saying some of the things you did, because I realized hey you took the time to come to my blog and read it and tell me I am fat and ugly and ps I’m still here)

“Be who God made you to be”– Dad

Dads have the best advice, don’t they? My dad has been the person that I have needed the most in the last few years. He was always there with words of advice and continues to be. God created me to be this way and I need to keep on doin’.

Who do I have to thank?

Friends- if you have someway come across with me at work, school or social media without your love and friendship-you mean the world to me. (I don’t just use that term loosely) I have always felt somewhat isolated from society so the few people I do have in my circle mean a lot.

Dad- I love you. You are the man I admire so much. You mean so much. I can’t emphasize this enough.

God- without the almighty Father the one that was there in the deep down when no one else saw the pain-You were the one. I cant and couldn’t keep going the way I was without you God. I love you.

I feel fortunate to have these experiences in the last three years. Thank you for taking some small time out to read this experience. I look forward to the future and whatever may happen and hopefully a new blog to write in the future.

 

 

With love

-Alex

Go Blog Social Recap

“I’m trying to find a way”

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In the past weekend –I traveled to Chicago. I needed a small place and space to clear my head for my sanity. I’ve been dealing a lot on my plate from school to work. It was nice to have a city vacation no for a little while.

This morning I was having a conversation with a friend who lives in Chicago. We were discussing all things that I have learned this past weekend. We were discussing Chicago as a place of making dreams happen. I talked how on Chicago had been a truly amazing time and growing experience when I lived there. That whenever I return back home I’m always filled with the “whys”.

This last weekend I attended another installment of Go Blog Social I always feel silly sometimes going to these things. I’m like the William Hung of blogging. Ever since GOMI I have felt like the outcast from blogging. This particular Go Blog Social featured a lot of speakers I’m truly inspired by. I mean that more than you may know.

The first speaker was Janet Mandell. Janet not only probably owns every Chanel bag I’d die to own. Janet is a business owner and has a fantastic blog that is highly successful. I was rather impressed when she talked about working with a brand. Working with a brand is a tough business. It requires a lot of skills to basically back it up. One thing I really thought that spoke to me was “Take No for answer”. Sometimes I feel that this is a hard pill to swallow. There are a lot of times you have to prove why you’re the best and that can’t always be easy. Janet is an amazing person and gave me some great advice after Go Blog Social.  She said “You can do this, be you and the rest will follow.”

One of the two keynote speakers I have always admired and followed. The first one we got to meet was Hallie Wilson (if you don’t know her you know her @ Corals + Cognacs). The one thing I totally vibe with Hallie is passion. When you find your passion you instantly know that’s it! Hallie’s story is not your “typical” blogger story. She dumped Chicago moved to NYC. While Hallie was in NYC she started attending Soul Cycle. After a few months at Soul Cycle she had this “AHA” moment! This is when she found out what her passion was. Hallie’s blog and focus shifted towards lifestyle + fashion. Hallie began to talk to us about how she auditioned for a Soul Cycle instructor, but yet didn’t make the cut. The second time around when she nailed it. Long story made pretty short is that Hallie ended up moving back to Chicago. She began working at Soul Cycle in Chicago.

I on a personal level got to talk with Hallie. I think out of all the people at Go Blog Social Hallie I think really understands me as a writer and blogger. I write this honestly with tears streaming down my face. In a world of blogging + the internet it’s really hard to find genuine people. People that really believe in you or people look at you as some dumb ass blogger. We talked after Go Blog Social was over the one thing I personally I told her was that everyone at sometimes finds themselves at a different time. In my case it was much later in life. Seemingly for Hallie it was too. I openly and honestly told her I was very grateful to meet someone that really truly understands that you have to push past all that negative mental shit.

The Third Keynote who was I was so happy to meet was Corri Mcfadden. As you may know Corri from E-drop Off, WICU + Me, and Glitter and Bubbles. Corri not only is one bad-ass boss but one of my mentors. One thing I’ve always admired about Corri is her work ethic. Corri was able to talk to us about her humble beginnings of E-drop Off, to “House of Consignment to her daughter Zelda. She talked to us a lot about what it means to be an “entrepreneur”. Corri spoke to my inner somewhat Beyoncé, (insert “the obvious two lines “Diva is a female version of a Hustler and Who Run the world: Girls ). She talked about GIRL POWER as women we empower each other. If you know Corri and have listened to herShe did it Her Way” podcast (which made me cry) is that one thing she always says “Failure isn’t an option”. The funny thing is that I realized that after GOMI and everything else that failed for me. I must make my career work for me. This is my blog, my style and my life. Corri is not only a wealth of knowledge. I was lucky to steal five moments with her afterword. We have been acquaintances for a while. I started to cry in front of her, which I felt really guilty and like a total spaz. Believe it or not this whole last year trying to figure what I need to do with this blog was incredibly confusing. Corri of course offered me the advice is that I should DO this. I can’t stop writing or believing that this is my moment and my blog. Who the fuck cares about what stupid ass internet people think? They don’t know me or who I am. Corri is one heck of lady! She has taught me so much even at Go Blog Social.

 

We also got to listen to Solopreneur Amanda Boelyn. That women is a dynamite wealth of knowledge. Amanda hosts the ultra-popular “She did it Her Way”. Amanda really talked to us about the podcast. The podcast has been ultra-popular since Serial. I haven’t told anyone yet but I have a new project coming with a podcast! Amanda has encouraged me to peruse it. So be on the lookout.

 

Go Blog Social to me has always been about meeting others + connecting. It’s not just a “blogger conference.” It’s one of those places where you make the lifelong friends. I have made some wonderful friends from Go Blog Social. People that have truly believed in me. Thank you to the creators Kat, Sara, Katelyn, and Samantha. Without you four I wouldn’t be here writing this. It was your humble words, thoughts and actions that have led to the most empowering Go Blog Social I have ever had (or at least the one where I had to hold back tears). I encourage you to check out this conference for 2016. You will meet the most empowering and faithful friends ever.

 

With that being said, I wish you all a great week! Thank you,

Alexandria

Giving in A Big Way #Givethanksgiving

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Hi guys! Since it’s the week of #THANKSGIVING. I wanted to share some things with you i have been working on in school this term. Many of you know my passion is social media marketing. I hope to do that as soon as i am done with school. I wanted to share a close organization to my heart. I have been serving with Joppa OutReach  this last few weeks. I had previously visited Joppa last year. Joppa is a homeless outreach in Des Moines Iowa. All my adult life, I’ve wanted to work with a non-profit that fit my heart. I certainly found it within Joppa. I am currently working with Joppa to provide social media outreach. I also volunteer on Sundays doing routes within the organization You may ask what is Joppa or what does Joppa do?

  • Express Christ’s unconditional love
  • Build relationships – become like family
  • Help people stay warm, dry and healthy
  • Provide food, humanitarian aid & care
  • Respond to needs & emergencies
  • Be a voice, advocate & link to resources
  • Encourage positive steps forward
  • Provide aftercare once off the streetts

I have been really thinking about this year what i am most thankful for? Everyday this November Ive been telling my self 1-2 i am thankful for daily. I have grown so much love for the people I am currently serving with  in Joppa. My heart is so filled this weekend.  How are you giving back this weekend? What are you most thankful for? How are you serving someone else this thanksgiving? I hope that you take away some good thoughts on Monday with this!

 

Have a fabulous week!

alex

My Favorite Pajams

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Hi! I am so sorry i have been missing in action. I have been so busy with school and finishing my semester (which by the way i have learned a lot). I am sorry i have been sort of non-blogging. I have just been busy plus i have had issues with my site. I wanted you to know i am back ( i am sorry to take a break). I have included some of my favorite sleepwear! I am currently in LOVE with Old Navy’s selection! I picked up this cute bear print waffle shirt last weekend! It is the warmest and coziest! I am again so sorry to take a break (please don’t forget that i have not forgot about you my readers).  Have a Happy wenesday!

Love

Alex

Happy 100th

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Happy Tuesday! This week is a busy one for me!  I am off this weekend to Kansas city and Chicago. This last weekend i really cleaned out my closet. I got rid of 14 bags of clothing. I have been really under going a change in my style. I only actually kept a few things that i felt really like me. I kept this cute little sweater and skirt. I thought i would post them because i am celebrating over 100 consecutive posts today! To think this last year, i was merely a baby blog. I have grown so much since this last year. I want to thank everyone and (even the my fans on GOMI) for driving me to do better !

Alex

Fall Oxfords

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 Hello all,  I’m glad to be back, I want to say thanks again for all of your critiques, and welcome to my newly revamped blog. As you can see  I have made a few changes, I hope you like what you see.  (New lens, and a whole new site will be rolling out soon.) Now that fall is in full swing,  I have become obsessed with long vintage vests,  I’ve seen them all over Milan Fashion Week,  I simply had to do a DIY of my own. (Hint; Take an old coat and seam rip the arms off)  I want to thank the lovely people of White Mountain Shoes for sending me a pair of oxfords,  I am really obsessing over them for fall, the color is perfect for this weather.  I hope you all have a wonderful start to your week and thank you for your love and support! 

Sincerely,

Alex

The Hardest Monday To Hit Publish

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This is probably the hardest entry I have had to write. Recently it has come to my attention there are websites out there that have a particular way of bashing people and fashion bloggers. I was on about five pages of this website trying to fathom who the hell would talk about me since, I am not that important ( neither are the people writing it)

I was up very late last night because I couldn’t sleep. I had been in the midst of a very dark time in my life. I wont discuss that in this entry. I feel that I need to address a few things within my own blog from that blog. So here it goes:

Here are a few samples of the things that have been personally said about me.

“Was trying to figure out who styled in the heartland reminded me of….. Mimi from the Drew Carey show.  She also looks like she needs a really good wash. Or maybe it’s the clothes that need a good wash. Not sure” Her instagram is even worse.

I appreciate Miss FUPA (Fat Upper Pussy) giving no fucks but unfortunately that isn’t enough to get me to read. This girl looks dirty (as in, unclean) and is she ESL? Her writing is jacked up. If she’s not ESL then she’s just stupid, and I can’t jive with that. To instead of too? C’mon now. 

“I want her to GOMI (Get Off My Internet) Fast. FAST”!

“What the hell is going on with her hair?! It looks like a toddler hairstyle in a beauty pageant, what a freakin mess!!!! Whoever this girl is, she needs to watch some tutorials on youtube and learn how to curl her hair. YUCK!!!”

“Pants can be really hard to fit when you have a fupa (actually given the prevalence of camel toe in fashion blogging, they’re just hard to fit in general) but skirts and dresses are great for disguising and preventing moose knuckle. I want to be friends with this girl so I can show her my secrets”

“I kinda feel sorry for this woman. I thought she was a teenager, but she says she’s 27. I guess I must be bored because I read her rambling about how she lost her temp to hire job, how she has to go on food stamps but then goes on to explain why/how she has a LV bag. The poor writing was painful to read through”

“Urrgh I hate these so-close-but-ruined-absolutely outfits. Minus the random gold heart and plus come concealer and this outfit would be fine”

“I just want take “Styled in the Heartland” under my wing. I read her blog post about being discouraged and it just pulled my heartstrings.  Part of me feels she’s trying hard to do something she enjoys and she doesn’t seem to have much in her life that gives her joy.  She doesn’t seem to have any positive role models or encourage influences in her life (or doesn’t acknowledge them).  It wouldn’t surprise me to find out she has some LD or other special needs. (For the record here: I am not now, nor have I EVER been special needs person. I worked with special needs people a year ago. I am very far from them. I am a normal FUNCTIONING adult. That isn’t a funny comment AT all. It’s downright false. The other part of me wants to tell her to suck it up buttercup; if people tell you your writing is crap, maybe at least check your spelling, capitalize “I” when used as first person singular, and try reading your post aloud before posting.  How did she graduate from college? She seems caught in what seems to be every millennial dream of making it big/getting rich on a blog.  It’s okay to do this as a hobby, kiddo, but don’t base your life goals and self esteem on it.  Set some goals, value yourself more (wash hair), ) improve your skills, etc.  The world just doesn’t beat down doors like it does in the movies. Sorry for the rant. I just can’t read her without feeling sadz”.

  1. I realized that when I started this blog, over a year ago. I realized I would give up my rights to privacy. I am not afraid to share with others the demons I have dealt with in the past. I realize that there would be comments made that weren’t so “nice”. Granted that this is the Internet and all. I never thought by sharing my fashion ideas, which I would be giving up my “privacy”. My goal was to just to share the struggles I have been going through. It was also a goal of mine to just share thrifted fashion to show you what kind of of options are out there for people of other sizes.
  1. There was a lot of talk on this blog about my weight. Weight has always been an issue for me. I have never been skinny. In my family everyone else is a big person. I lost a lot of weight two years ago. I try to do the best I can because I cannot just change the way I look. It’s hard enough having the world tell you; you aren’t good enough. I want to make a remark also on my style. The people that were saying “Color Blind Grandma who dives out of a goodwill dumpster”. I have to ask you as a reader do you think this? I have always loved the idea of second hand clothing. When you may look at a second hand store you might think to yourself to quote a Mean Girls quote “That is the ugliest effing skirt ever.” You don’t see the possibilities like I do. I never set out to dress like modern women, because I don’t like what modern plus size women dress. The style for plus size women has always been really boring in my opinion. When I was sixteen I began to develop the pattern of finding different things that no one else was interested in wearing and make them all of my own. Some people may not like how I look, or dress but that’s me. I can’t just decide that’s its not good enough. I look at fashion blogs a lot or read fashion blogs. The style on a lot of those girls is really cute. It simply just won’t work for me.

 

  1. Pointing out another thing that was discussed on this website was my writing skills. Right now, I am using an editor to help me write. Granted in the past I started up this fashion blog not really knowing what I would get my self into. I have always struggled with writing. Currently in school right now I am working with a tutor to help, not only to learn technical writing but also to help me achieve where I want to be successfully. I understand that is not an excuse in the past, but it is the honest truth about where I am coming from. I do have borderline Attention Deficit Disorder. I am a very slow learner, that is a very factor that does hinder me from a lot of things. In my former education, I did a lot of writing but it wasn’t so concerned on the technical side of it. I worked with a tutor throughout my four years of education but it wasn’t easy it probably wont ever be easy.

 

  1. The other thing that was discussed the fact that I own a Louis Vuitton and my temp job and other things like that. Let me discuss something here, the reason I decided to go back to school was to help me find a new career. I went to school for four years and I didn’t really find a career. I worked hard very hard for my BFA. If you have never been to art school you do NOT know the amount of work it does take to attain that Bachelors of Fine Arts.  So forth, I had a choice, so I took it to get another education. This summer I decided I wanted to try out a temporary agency. I originally was hired on till November but once again, my ADD came into an effect I couldn’t keep up with all the changes being made so fast. (Being thrown in the work after only 5 days of crammed training) They let me go. About a month later they let everyone else go because there was no work left for the “line” of business. I returned to school this fall, to keep studying marketing and web design. I have a passion for marketing I never knew I had, I really do enjoy it and all it has to offer.

 

  1. Now about my purses, I do own quite a bit of designer bags. Here’s the thing a lot of them have come from second hand stores. In 2006 I purchased a Gucci bag from my local salvation army in Moline Illinois. Since then I have become addicted to finding awesome deals on designer stuff. My LV came from Craigslist (yes you heard that right). I looked at the bag and I sent images to an authenticator. The bag was a genuine Louis Vuitton Alama . At the time I had a really good job, which I was working regularly. I purchased that for only $286.00, I was very happy with my purchase.

 

  1. I Am not a going to sit and here and contest to the fact that those of you on the Internet have ripped me down. Calling me dirty and disgusting. I have a few things to add to that. When it comes to smiling I don’t smile a lot. I don’t like how my face looks when I smile. I attempt to make serious faces.  As for the dirty part, I do however shower and I do bathe on a daily basis. The images you are referring to, it was over 90 degrees out side when those were shot. I was sweating pretty badly. My hair naturally looked bad. My hair is naturally curly; I straighten my hair and give it that pieced messy look. I have always liked that sort of hair do.

 

  1. I never set out to collect sympathy for people on my blog at all. I simply just found it to be my creative space to be Alex. I take all the things people say as constructive criticism. I realize my writing is terrible. That for which I am improving. I realized that my photography skills are not what they used to even when I did receive that BFA in photography. I’m no longer a professional in that business anymore. I just ordered a new lens to help me with better photography and to do better on my images. For how I dress, I can’t change that. I’ve always had the freedom of expression on my side, and if you are telling me that my clothes don’t fit me, be in my body and feel the things I do with the frustration of finding clothes that you like.

 

 

This post in a lot of ways not only let me open up in my situations. I am firmly working towards goals that I have for this blog. Including better images, better writing and being more elegant in my styling. I struggled not to lash out on a lot of these that were being said. It simply broke my heart to see these people tear away at very successful others who are the nicest people in this industry.

 

My focus is to educate you how you can make those 1990’s outfits work for you. I really totally believe that when I see Salvation Army I see not only people’s rejects but also a wild possibility of items that you can make-work for you. This fashion industry is tough to be in it really is. I have learned that if you let the negativity affect the person you are its going to really tear you down. I felt that this post was a necessary post to clear up the things that were being said. I never thought in two months of time I would be growing as much as I am. I see this is a wonderful opportunity to meet others and talk to them about their Ideas of fashion. Granted I am not in rewards style, or on Glam Media. I am at least trying to improve in every aspect I can. I always don’t know trends, or what is cool these days but I know what I like and I try to share that with you the reader. I don’t read magazines however I feel, as I should to gain more knowledge on trends to help me more commercial. These are all aspects that I am willing to improve upon!

 

 

I hope that in this entry, you can understand that I look at negativity in two ways. One way was to gain a better understanding about how I need to improve on a lot of things. I didn’t start blogging seriously since May of 2014. The hurt and the negativity comments, only fuel my fire to do better. I have heard a lot of what people are saying all my life. Although I don’t want to say what happened after I read the comments, but to quote something has been said to me since that time of me reading the negative and very hateful comments. From a friend “You can not simply just change who you are or your style. If people are taking the time out to comment they must be genuinely interested. These people are telling you are a special needs person, they don’t know the core of your soul. Remember that Christ has formed you in the way that He wanted for His purposes”.

 

I have to personally remember that I am using what I can bring to the table. Thinking out side of the box for fashion, rather you like it or not. I am who I am, although the negativity does hurt and the comments are very raw and emotional. I focus towards the future. I focus from here on out , doing better. .

 

I will remain to only get better from here on out.  Know that, Jesus loves you and sees you for who you are and what you will become.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

10 Tips on Surviving College

 

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Hi Happy Tuesday. Today i thought I’d take a different spin on the blog. I am going to talk a little more a bout college. As you know i am attending college. I am only 27 (I know what you are thinking you dont look 27) I decided to go back to school last semester. My first stent in college resulted in my achieving my bachelors degree in fine arts. It didn’t pan out in terms of a career. I decided to studying something else. I entered school i realized there were a lot of older students. I have come up with a few tips that will help you if you are a young college student or an older student like myself.

1. NEVER show up in your pajamas (like the images above). It looks unprofessional. I know a lot of college students roll out and come in pajamas. Treat school as it if it were a a job. Show up look professional. (put the bunny slippers away!)

2. Stay on top of things. Get a planner. I know for me between my job , my schooling and my blog. I rely on my planner. I don’t use my iPhone or my Ipad as a planner. I want assignments and deadlines  hand written. Its in bound hard copy. (My school offered a free planner but i of course i jazzed it up)

3. Keep a journal. I keep a journal of my goals. I know this sounds really silly . I take 5 minutes out of my day to list goals. I also take 5 minutes to write things I’m thankful for. It is to remind me that i am fortunate to go to school (even though ill be paying for it forever). Some people are not fortunate to go to school nor afford it.

4. When shopping. Take advantage of student discounts! (the assumption is that most college kids are poor. Granted im not rich I’m “surviving”. I am 100% thankful for all i have.) There are tons of discounts even as an adult student i can take advantage of.  To name a few. The salvation army offers 1/2 off on a purchase with showing a college id. I received 6 months free of Amazon Prime for  6 months by showing my student email. Some movie theaters-and other places by showing a college I.D. will get you discounts.

5. Take care of yourself! With all the things going on in my crazy life right now i always don’t get the amount of exercise and sleep i need.  Try to get some exercise, if that means going for a walk, or getting to a gym (I know some gyms offer student discounts). Get your SLEEP! It’s important to keep your mind sharp and fresh. (As an older student you ‘d think I would have figured this out by now, well nope! Ha, I’m still learning)

6. So your trying to do the just thing and work right? I am adult i put myself through school- you need to make extra money? Here are a few ideas to make extra money: If your like me, you have obsession for clothes, shoes, and many many accessories. You feel bogged down by how much stuff you have. I would take it local consignment stores and sell it. Here are a few options: Plato’s Closet , eBay, Walk In My Closet, PoshMark, Thredup, and many more.  If your like me and have a hard time parting with your more expensive items (aka your Louis Vuitton, Gucci bags and that Marc Jacobs bag you are still paying for. I suggest Shop EDrop off. Not only is it Midwestern (and in my special favorite city Chicago) it is a gem full of many goodies and so easy to get your stuff sold)

7. Manage your stress!  (I know it kind of goes with the few up above). How i manage my stress? Well you are looking at it. My blog is my stress outlet. *I am de stressing as i write. It is a good place for me to use my creative outlet.  i suggest find an activity that helps you manage all the things going on in your life. I enjoy writing , col aging, walking, i love to sleep, sometimes ill do puzzles or play games. Just take the time to scream ME. (hey it helps)

8.  Get good study habits. In my prior education i didn’t take a lot of tests, or do things like that. Now that I am studying again. I take tests, i find it easy to go home and get distracted. I take myself to the library at my school or my local library and i study. Take advantage of academic resources! I am a BIG believer in this. I had a teacher in grade school who taught me “No question is a stupid question”. I have borderline ADD. I cant focus a lot and i am easily distracted. I have trouble with my writing as well. I take full advantage of the learning center on my campus.

9. Don’t ever let anyone tell you you are too old to be attending school. Believe me, as an adult student, i never let people tell me im TOO old to learn something. In my first class of the semester everyone was older than me in the class! My dad always taught me, you are “Never to old to learn”. Don’t let anyone influence in what you choose to study. I was fortunate with my parents, they are awesome. They let me choose to study what i wanted to. This time around i had lots of people tell me not to study marketing its not a concrete position. Neither is web design some people would say. I am a firm believer in “How will you know if you dont try?” I let six years of being so down on my self and education i never thought id be here again. I full love marketing. I love the social interaction and the networking.  I have to believe in myself and my skills.

10. Finally and lastly, keep yourself in check.  Remind yourself what the end goal is. i think its really hard for me, to remind myself what the end goal is. I have had trouble visualizing my career after school because i have been in a non existent career. My professors say I’m proactive and enthusiastic. I tell myself geez Alex, you are doing this for YOU! I have read a lot of good college tips from a lot of people. Granted i go to a local college (AHEM the largest in Des Moines got #DMACC!) Ill probably never get to experience a sorority or your college parties (my idea of a party is a thrift store, and a good cheap meal hey!) Remember this is (well i tell myself a ticket out of Iowa) but i Know to help me make a career  i want that 9-5 job so bad i can taste it i don’t have to get paid a lot but i i just want that normality). To quote a rather now famous movie line from “Jack” with Robin Williams  ” Please, don’t worry so much. Because in the end, none of us have very long on this Earth. Life is fleeting. And if you’re ever distressed, cast your eyes to the summer skies, when the stars are strung across the velvety night, and a shooting star streaks through the blackness turning night into day. Make a wish. Think of me. Make your life spectacular. I know I did.” – Jack (Robin Williams) With that.

 

I hope these tips help you if you are new to college or returning like myself. Enjoy college that’s what its there for. Yet i am learning all day , everyday. Have a happy Tuesday.

 

 

xx Alex

Let’s Go To The Movies

moviesstylCamille | Love Finds Andy Hardy | Calamity Jane | An American In Paris | Easter Parade | Meet Me In St. Louis | Swing Time | Summer Stock | By the Lithe of the Silvery Moon

Happy Friday! Phew my first full week of madness is over! Hurrah! I like to take Friday nights to wind down after work is over. My lovely friend over at Charmingly Styled picked out here favorite fashion moves. I borrowed her ideas and picked out my favorite old fashioned movies. My favorite movie of all times, is on here Camille. (Which if you have seen Annie, you know that this is the movie she watches after the famous song “Lets Go To The Movies”). I love to wind down Fridays with a classic film and snacks. Tell Me Whats your favorite movie? What kind of films do you like watching? I love old movies with judy, doris and gene and Fred the whole gang! I hope you have a wonderful weekend <3 and happy Labor Day!

xx Alex

Wild Moutain

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And the Colorado Rocky Mountain high, I’ve seen it raining fire in the sky.
I know he’d be a poor man if he never saw an eagle fly,
Rocky Mountain high, the Colorado Rocky Mountain high, I’ve seen it raining fire in the sky.
Friends around the campfire and everybody’s high
Rocky Mountain high, Colorado. Rocky Mountain high.
Rocky Mountain high, Colorado. Rocky Mountain high.

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Hi! I have some incredible Thursday news. Last night i surpassed 11k Views! #SERIOUSLY thank you. THANK YOU i cant say it enough. I feel so incredibly blessed that you are so sweet to me in your comments! I hope you will follow me on Facebook, instagram and twitter  and Pinterest (i promise my instagram is full of cats and jewelry)

Here’s a thank you video from me to you <3