Go Blog Social Recap

“I’m trying to find a way”

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In the past weekend –I traveled to Chicago. I needed a small place and space to clear my head for my sanity. I’ve been dealing a lot on my plate from school to work. It was nice to have a city vacation no for a little while.

This morning I was having a conversation with a friend who lives in Chicago. We were discussing all things that I have learned this past weekend. We were discussing Chicago as a place of making dreams happen. I talked how on Chicago had been a truly amazing time and growing experience when I lived there. That whenever I return back home I’m always filled with the “whys”.

This last weekend I attended another installment of Go Blog Social I always feel silly sometimes going to these things. I’m like the William Hung of blogging. Ever since GOMI I have felt like the outcast from blogging. This particular Go Blog Social featured a lot of speakers I’m truly inspired by. I mean that more than you may know.

The first speaker was Janet Mandell. Janet not only probably owns every Chanel bag I’d die to own. Janet is a business owner and has a fantastic blog that is highly successful. I was rather impressed when she talked about working with a brand. Working with a brand is a tough business. It requires a lot of skills to basically back it up. One thing I really thought that spoke to me was “Take No for answer”. Sometimes I feel that this is a hard pill to swallow. There are a lot of times you have to prove why you’re the best and that can’t always be easy. Janet is an amazing person and gave me some great advice after Go Blog Social.  She said “You can do this, be you and the rest will follow.”

One of the two keynote speakers I have always admired and followed. The first one we got to meet was Hallie Wilson (if you don’t know her you know her @ Corals + Cognacs). The one thing I totally vibe with Hallie is passion. When you find your passion you instantly know that’s it! Hallie’s story is not your “typical” blogger story. She dumped Chicago moved to NYC. While Hallie was in NYC she started attending Soul Cycle. After a few months at Soul Cycle she had this “AHA” moment! This is when she found out what her passion was. Hallie’s blog and focus shifted towards lifestyle + fashion. Hallie began to talk to us about how she auditioned for a Soul Cycle instructor, but yet didn’t make the cut. The second time around when she nailed it. Long story made pretty short is that Hallie ended up moving back to Chicago. She began working at Soul Cycle in Chicago.

I on a personal level got to talk with Hallie. I think out of all the people at Go Blog Social Hallie I think really understands me as a writer and blogger. I write this honestly with tears streaming down my face. In a world of blogging + the internet it’s really hard to find genuine people. People that really believe in you or people look at you as some dumb ass blogger. We talked after Go Blog Social was over the one thing I personally I told her was that everyone at sometimes finds themselves at a different time. In my case it was much later in life. Seemingly for Hallie it was too. I openly and honestly told her I was very grateful to meet someone that really truly understands that you have to push past all that negative mental shit.

The Third Keynote who was I was so happy to meet was Corri Mcfadden. As you may know Corri from E-drop Off, WICU + Me, and Glitter and Bubbles. Corri not only is one bad-ass boss but one of my mentors. One thing I’ve always admired about Corri is her work ethic. Corri was able to talk to us about her humble beginnings of E-drop Off, to “House of Consignment to her daughter Zelda. She talked to us a lot about what it means to be an “entrepreneur”. Corri spoke to my inner somewhat Beyoncé, (insert “the obvious two lines “Diva is a female version of a Hustler and Who Run the world: Girls ). She talked about GIRL POWER as women we empower each other. If you know Corri and have listened to herShe did it Her Way” podcast (which made me cry) is that one thing she always says “Failure isn’t an option”. The funny thing is that I realized that after GOMI and everything else that failed for me. I must make my career work for me. This is my blog, my style and my life. Corri is not only a wealth of knowledge. I was lucky to steal five moments with her afterword. We have been acquaintances for a while. I started to cry in front of her, which I felt really guilty and like a total spaz. Believe it or not this whole last year trying to figure what I need to do with this blog was incredibly confusing. Corri of course offered me the advice is that I should DO this. I can’t stop writing or believing that this is my moment and my blog. Who the fuck cares about what stupid ass internet people think? They don’t know me or who I am. Corri is one heck of lady! She has taught me so much even at Go Blog Social.

 

We also got to listen to Solopreneur Amanda Boelyn. That women is a dynamite wealth of knowledge. Amanda hosts the ultra-popular “She did it Her Way”. Amanda really talked to us about the podcast. The podcast has been ultra-popular since Serial. I haven’t told anyone yet but I have a new project coming with a podcast! Amanda has encouraged me to peruse it. So be on the lookout.

 

Go Blog Social to me has always been about meeting others + connecting. It’s not just a “blogger conference.” It’s one of those places where you make the lifelong friends. I have made some wonderful friends from Go Blog Social. People that have truly believed in me. Thank you to the creators Kat, Sara, Katelyn, and Samantha. Without you four I wouldn’t be here writing this. It was your humble words, thoughts and actions that have led to the most empowering Go Blog Social I have ever had (or at least the one where I had to hold back tears). I encourage you to check out this conference for 2016. You will meet the most empowering and faithful friends ever.

 

With that being said, I wish you all a great week! Thank you,

Alexandria

My Favorite Pajams

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Hi! I am so sorry i have been missing in action. I have been so busy with school and finishing my semester (which by the way i have learned a lot). I am sorry i have been sort of non-blogging. I have just been busy plus i have had issues with my site. I wanted you to know i am back ( i am sorry to take a break). I have included some of my favorite sleepwear! I am currently in LOVE with Old Navy’s selection! I picked up this cute bear print waffle shirt last weekend! It is the warmest and coziest! I am again so sorry to take a break (please don’t forget that i have not forgot about you my readers).  Have a Happy wenesday!

Love

Alex

Travel Essentials

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This weekend is a very busy one for me. Today i depart for Kansas City. I am on a trip with my Marketing Group, exploring different professionals in the workplace. I have picked out a few of my cant live without travel essentials. Literally every item on this list i have. I however i am obsessed with the Customized Timbuk 2 bag. I have loved Timbuk 2 since my art school days. Im pretty excited to tour their new store in Chicago this weekend.  Where is a place you’d like to travel? Let me know in the comments! Have a Fabulous Thursday.

Xo

Alex

Mad For Plaid

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One thing i love about fall is all the pretty colors. More recently i have been breaking out my plaid and flannel. I haven’t been feeling well, so i have been browsing lots of cute fashion ideas. I am obsessing over these plaid items i found. I am in love with plaid for the fall. I hope you enjoy the fun things i have found! Have a great monday.

Breast Cancer Awarenss Month-Think Pink

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Ocotober is breast cancer awareness month. This year i will be running Race for the Cure .  I picked out a few of my favorite pink things right now. I am sorta of obsessed with the Pink Carousel collection from Zelie for She. The best part of the collection is that a portion funds breast cancer research. I also am obsessed with lipsticks. I love the Ka’oir line! The best part about this lipstick its called “survivor”. The proceeds go to fund the Susan G Komen Foundation. I also put in a few more little things, my favorite bow pumps at the moment! The bag is also from Brighton, its a “breast cancer” awareness bag! I hope you have a great weekend. Remember Breast Cancer is important. Schedule your mammograms today. Keep fighting.

*this post is dedicated to Annette Franklin, who i have the honor of running for. Keep fighting the good fight neighbor. Love you.

xx

Alex

Work Out Gear

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Top : Active Top With Built In Bra- Old Navy / Pants: Old Navy Active Compression Pants  / Shoes : Adidas

I’ve recently decided to go on a mission to lead a healthier, and more active lifestlye. I just invested in some new gym gear from the Old Navy, It’s very comfortable and surprisingly affordable, It even makes you feel stylish! (Like you aren’t at the gym.) I am very excited to start this new chapter of my life on the road to happy & healthy.
xx

Alex

 

A Little Casual

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pine1Blazer : Escada (similar) / Shirt: Ann Taylor / Pant: Pixie Ankle Pant -Old Navy / Shoes: Merona  / Clutch: Expressions NYC / Earrings: Old Navy/ Sunglasses : Forever 21

 

Happy Monday, although fall is here I often find myself missing the summer. I found this cute t-shirt this weekend on mega clearance from my local Ann Taylor, even though it makes me miss summer. I though it would be a fun idea to throw in a pop or a color to my look. Old Navy has these amazing pants that are out now called the “pixie” pants, they are amazing, they’re very versatile with everything! The pixie pants are available in plus sizes via thee old navy website! I hope that you have a great work week.

Leather Obessesion

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1. Leather Delux Motto Jacket  2. Faux Leather Peplum  / 3. Leather Ponte Body Con Dress / 4. City Ankle Boots  / 5. Leather Panel Leggings 

Lately I have been really obsessed with leather. When I was in junior high, leather pants were the coolest thing. I remember I could never find anything that fit me, however in the last few years the plus size movement in terms of fashion has really grown, there are more options than ever. I have a picked a few of my favorite leather trends, I hope you enjoy.

xx Alex

The Hardest Monday To Hit Publish

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This is probably the hardest entry I have had to write. Recently it has come to my attention there are websites out there that have a particular way of bashing people and fashion bloggers. I was on about five pages of this website trying to fathom who the hell would talk about me since, I am not that important ( neither are the people writing it)

I was up very late last night because I couldn’t sleep. I had been in the midst of a very dark time in my life. I wont discuss that in this entry. I feel that I need to address a few things within my own blog from that blog. So here it goes:

Here are a few samples of the things that have been personally said about me.

“Was trying to figure out who styled in the heartland reminded me of….. Mimi from the Drew Carey show.  She also looks like she needs a really good wash. Or maybe it’s the clothes that need a good wash. Not sure” Her instagram is even worse.

I appreciate Miss FUPA (Fat Upper Pussy) giving no fucks but unfortunately that isn’t enough to get me to read. This girl looks dirty (as in, unclean) and is she ESL? Her writing is jacked up. If she’s not ESL then she’s just stupid, and I can’t jive with that. To instead of too? C’mon now. 

“I want her to GOMI (Get Off My Internet) Fast. FAST”!

“What the hell is going on with her hair?! It looks like a toddler hairstyle in a beauty pageant, what a freakin mess!!!! Whoever this girl is, she needs to watch some tutorials on youtube and learn how to curl her hair. YUCK!!!”

“Pants can be really hard to fit when you have a fupa (actually given the prevalence of camel toe in fashion blogging, they’re just hard to fit in general) but skirts and dresses are great for disguising and preventing moose knuckle. I want to be friends with this girl so I can show her my secrets”

“I kinda feel sorry for this woman. I thought she was a teenager, but she says she’s 27. I guess I must be bored because I read her rambling about how she lost her temp to hire job, how she has to go on food stamps but then goes on to explain why/how she has a LV bag. The poor writing was painful to read through”

“Urrgh I hate these so-close-but-ruined-absolutely outfits. Minus the random gold heart and plus come concealer and this outfit would be fine”

“I just want take “Styled in the Heartland” under my wing. I read her blog post about being discouraged and it just pulled my heartstrings.  Part of me feels she’s trying hard to do something she enjoys and she doesn’t seem to have much in her life that gives her joy.  She doesn’t seem to have any positive role models or encourage influences in her life (or doesn’t acknowledge them).  It wouldn’t surprise me to find out she has some LD or other special needs. (For the record here: I am not now, nor have I EVER been special needs person. I worked with special needs people a year ago. I am very far from them. I am a normal FUNCTIONING adult. That isn’t a funny comment AT all. It’s downright false. The other part of me wants to tell her to suck it up buttercup; if people tell you your writing is crap, maybe at least check your spelling, capitalize “I” when used as first person singular, and try reading your post aloud before posting.  How did she graduate from college? She seems caught in what seems to be every millennial dream of making it big/getting rich on a blog.  It’s okay to do this as a hobby, kiddo, but don’t base your life goals and self esteem on it.  Set some goals, value yourself more (wash hair), ) improve your skills, etc.  The world just doesn’t beat down doors like it does in the movies. Sorry for the rant. I just can’t read her without feeling sadz”.

  1. I realized that when I started this blog, over a year ago. I realized I would give up my rights to privacy. I am not afraid to share with others the demons I have dealt with in the past. I realize that there would be comments made that weren’t so “nice”. Granted that this is the Internet and all. I never thought by sharing my fashion ideas, which I would be giving up my “privacy”. My goal was to just to share the struggles I have been going through. It was also a goal of mine to just share thrifted fashion to show you what kind of of options are out there for people of other sizes.
  1. There was a lot of talk on this blog about my weight. Weight has always been an issue for me. I have never been skinny. In my family everyone else is a big person. I lost a lot of weight two years ago. I try to do the best I can because I cannot just change the way I look. It’s hard enough having the world tell you; you aren’t good enough. I want to make a remark also on my style. The people that were saying “Color Blind Grandma who dives out of a goodwill dumpster”. I have to ask you as a reader do you think this? I have always loved the idea of second hand clothing. When you may look at a second hand store you might think to yourself to quote a Mean Girls quote “That is the ugliest effing skirt ever.” You don’t see the possibilities like I do. I never set out to dress like modern women, because I don’t like what modern plus size women dress. The style for plus size women has always been really boring in my opinion. When I was sixteen I began to develop the pattern of finding different things that no one else was interested in wearing and make them all of my own. Some people may not like how I look, or dress but that’s me. I can’t just decide that’s its not good enough. I look at fashion blogs a lot or read fashion blogs. The style on a lot of those girls is really cute. It simply just won’t work for me.

 

  1. Pointing out another thing that was discussed on this website was my writing skills. Right now, I am using an editor to help me write. Granted in the past I started up this fashion blog not really knowing what I would get my self into. I have always struggled with writing. Currently in school right now I am working with a tutor to help, not only to learn technical writing but also to help me achieve where I want to be successfully. I understand that is not an excuse in the past, but it is the honest truth about where I am coming from. I do have borderline Attention Deficit Disorder. I am a very slow learner, that is a very factor that does hinder me from a lot of things. In my former education, I did a lot of writing but it wasn’t so concerned on the technical side of it. I worked with a tutor throughout my four years of education but it wasn’t easy it probably wont ever be easy.

 

  1. The other thing that was discussed the fact that I own a Louis Vuitton and my temp job and other things like that. Let me discuss something here, the reason I decided to go back to school was to help me find a new career. I went to school for four years and I didn’t really find a career. I worked hard very hard for my BFA. If you have never been to art school you do NOT know the amount of work it does take to attain that Bachelors of Fine Arts.  So forth, I had a choice, so I took it to get another education. This summer I decided I wanted to try out a temporary agency. I originally was hired on till November but once again, my ADD came into an effect I couldn’t keep up with all the changes being made so fast. (Being thrown in the work after only 5 days of crammed training) They let me go. About a month later they let everyone else go because there was no work left for the “line” of business. I returned to school this fall, to keep studying marketing and web design. I have a passion for marketing I never knew I had, I really do enjoy it and all it has to offer.

 

  1. Now about my purses, I do own quite a bit of designer bags. Here’s the thing a lot of them have come from second hand stores. In 2006 I purchased a Gucci bag from my local salvation army in Moline Illinois. Since then I have become addicted to finding awesome deals on designer stuff. My LV came from Craigslist (yes you heard that right). I looked at the bag and I sent images to an authenticator. The bag was a genuine Louis Vuitton Alama . At the time I had a really good job, which I was working regularly. I purchased that for only $286.00, I was very happy with my purchase.

 

  1. I Am not a going to sit and here and contest to the fact that those of you on the Internet have ripped me down. Calling me dirty and disgusting. I have a few things to add to that. When it comes to smiling I don’t smile a lot. I don’t like how my face looks when I smile. I attempt to make serious faces.  As for the dirty part, I do however shower and I do bathe on a daily basis. The images you are referring to, it was over 90 degrees out side when those were shot. I was sweating pretty badly. My hair naturally looked bad. My hair is naturally curly; I straighten my hair and give it that pieced messy look. I have always liked that sort of hair do.

 

  1. I never set out to collect sympathy for people on my blog at all. I simply just found it to be my creative space to be Alex. I take all the things people say as constructive criticism. I realize my writing is terrible. That for which I am improving. I realized that my photography skills are not what they used to even when I did receive that BFA in photography. I’m no longer a professional in that business anymore. I just ordered a new lens to help me with better photography and to do better on my images. For how I dress, I can’t change that. I’ve always had the freedom of expression on my side, and if you are telling me that my clothes don’t fit me, be in my body and feel the things I do with the frustration of finding clothes that you like.

 

 

This post in a lot of ways not only let me open up in my situations. I am firmly working towards goals that I have for this blog. Including better images, better writing and being more elegant in my styling. I struggled not to lash out on a lot of these that were being said. It simply broke my heart to see these people tear away at very successful others who are the nicest people in this industry.

 

My focus is to educate you how you can make those 1990’s outfits work for you. I really totally believe that when I see Salvation Army I see not only people’s rejects but also a wild possibility of items that you can make-work for you. This fashion industry is tough to be in it really is. I have learned that if you let the negativity affect the person you are its going to really tear you down. I felt that this post was a necessary post to clear up the things that were being said. I never thought in two months of time I would be growing as much as I am. I see this is a wonderful opportunity to meet others and talk to them about their Ideas of fashion. Granted I am not in rewards style, or on Glam Media. I am at least trying to improve in every aspect I can. I always don’t know trends, or what is cool these days but I know what I like and I try to share that with you the reader. I don’t read magazines however I feel, as I should to gain more knowledge on trends to help me more commercial. These are all aspects that I am willing to improve upon!

 

 

I hope that in this entry, you can understand that I look at negativity in two ways. One way was to gain a better understanding about how I need to improve on a lot of things. I didn’t start blogging seriously since May of 2014. The hurt and the negativity comments, only fuel my fire to do better. I have heard a lot of what people are saying all my life. Although I don’t want to say what happened after I read the comments, but to quote something has been said to me since that time of me reading the negative and very hateful comments. From a friend “You can not simply just change who you are or your style. If people are taking the time out to comment they must be genuinely interested. These people are telling you are a special needs person, they don’t know the core of your soul. Remember that Christ has formed you in the way that He wanted for His purposes”.

 

I have to personally remember that I am using what I can bring to the table. Thinking out side of the box for fashion, rather you like it or not. I am who I am, although the negativity does hurt and the comments are very raw and emotional. I focus towards the future. I focus from here on out , doing better. .

 

I will remain to only get better from here on out.  Know that, Jesus loves you and sees you for who you are and what you will become.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Turn Up The Volume…

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Happy friday. I am so excited its Finally Friday! I already feel fall coming in full swing (and so is my homework) which is what I will be doing all of Saturday. (Hi Library)! While I’m currently drooling over all the #NYFW action. I have to keep it real. Next week i am so excited i finally got a new photo lens to shoot with. Expect way better pictures to come Your way. I hope you have a very happy and safe weekend (please drink a pumpkin latte for me)!

xx Alex